A single woman in her 40’s felt destined to live the rest of her life by herself and in her frustration remarked about failed relationships “even the s3x is not good!” It’s possible like many couples, that her ex-boyfriend(s) had been dealing with a condition of erectile dysfunction that presented itself in not-so-satisfying bedroom experiences and other ways.
Impotence or otherwise called, Erectile Dysfunction (ED), is a condition common among men (not limited to age) in which it’s difficult to get or maintain an erection of reasonable rigidity either inconsistently or for certain lengths of times (months to years). There are ways to tell if your man might be experiencing impotence; whether or not you should have a conversation about it and try seeing a health specialist to remedy the situation. According to my.clevelandclinic.org about 1 in 10 men suffer from long-term erectile dysfunction.
Impotence tends to hurt self-esteem:
- Do you sometimes sense an unreasonable reluctance from him when you try to get intimate?
- Does he respond with a shyness or evasiveness you can’t quite explain?
- Does he want to be intimate one minute then quickly back out the next?
- Does getting an erection seem like an uphill task even when he’s in the mood for it?
- Does he ejaculate prematurely?
- How about, maintaining a firm erection for a considerable length of time?
- Perhaps, he does get an erection but quickly loses it or it’s not as firm?
- Or maybe, as much as he wants to be close to you and clothes-off with you, you can’t understand why he quickly reaches for his clothes each time or seems like he can’t wait for the deed to end.
- Do you feel like something’s off when making love (and chances are you just go along not to upset him or hurt his feelings)?
- Do you comment about (or applaud) everything else intimate while carefully dodging the sexual performance because maybe his feelings and ego are quite delicate (or he’s cautioned you never to bring it up to him)?
If some or most of these questions are situations you can relate with then it’s likely your man has erectile dysfunction.
There are other ways to tell if the man you’re interested in has ED or is likely to develop ED.
- An unhealthy lifestyle of drinking, substance abuse, smoking.
- Certain surgical procedures, radiation therapy, accidents.
- Obesity, caffeine intake, and foods high in saturated fats (fried foods, red meat, pre-packaged foods).
- Mental health episodes (anxiety, depression, trauma, unusual stress).
- Medications (including some dietary supplements, vitamins, antidepressants, diuretics, antihypertensives, antihistamines, tranquilizers, muscle relaxants, antiarrhythmics, parkison’s disease drugs).
- Problems and tension in your sexual relationship.
- Penile curvature (Peyronie’s disease), heart disease, stroke, diabetes, liver disease.
What to do about it?
ED is bad enough on its own but can as well be a sign of an underlying disease that needs immediate medical attention. Even when mild, it helps to address any possible causes as soon as possible after consulting a professional health specialist and having any tests done. It remains quite sensitive to talk about openly (nearly 75 percent of men don’t seek treatment) but it should be no cause for shame when it’s your overall health and relationships on the line.
Care to read more..
- Impotence- Havard Health
- Impotence in a Man? (emedicinehealth.com)
- Conditions Linked To ED | HuffPost Communities
Love this article? Feel free to comment below or share your questions with us. You may also suggest topics you would love us to write about. [Pictures are courtesy of Pexels and Unsplash]